How I made my choices

Sometimes you have opportunities and you can choose to make a turn and change your life. And sometimes life decides for you and you have no choice.

Like everybody, I had to make tons of choices in my life, from the smallest to the biggest. But each one of them was my choice.

I choose to do law school.

I choose to move to Nantes to do my business school.

I choose to work in Tokyo for a summer internship.

I choose to do my semester abroad in Washington DC.

I choose to say YES to my husband.

I choose to buy an apartment and invest in a place for my family.

I choose to change jobs 5 times.

I choose to have kids.

I choose to live in New York and quit my life in Paris to start a new adventure with my husband and our daughter.

I choose to continue this pregnancy and take on my own fears.

I choose to start my own business as a coach.

Each one of these choices was right for me.

I made these choices with all the information I had at this moment. No idea of the consequences and of the future. I did my best. I followed my intuition. And I have no regrets.

Most of these choices changed my life. They are part of my story. They made me the woman I am now.


Some of my choices were made with the help of my family or my friend, but I am the one who lived with them.

That’s why it is important to make your choices according to your values and your life.

No one knows better than you what is best for you.

Pieces of Advice are good to take, Orders are not. When it’s your life you have to choose what is best for you, at this moment of your life.

A woman can decide to say no to her lover (or run away the day of the wedding, it’s still her choice).

A little boy can choose to do a ballet class instead of football.

A little girl can choose rugby instead of gymnastics.

A man can choose to quit his wife and his kids.

A woman can choose to have no kids.

A young man can wear long hair.

A young girl can have short hair.

When choices are right for you, make you feel good, no matter what the society tells you, no matter what your family tells you, no matter what your friend tells you, it is your choice.

But sometimes, you want to have the choice but you cannot because you don’t have this freedom of choice, this courage to go against society, your family, your friends. And it’s completely ok. And it is still a choice to decide not to go in a direction because you cannot do it or it will hurt you or the people you love.

Sometimes your life is in danger because you live in a country where you have no right to speak or choose even the way you dress. You still have the right to think, and the hope that things will change one day.

If you live in a country where you have the right to do what you want, where you can choose your life, it can be scary too. Too many possibilities are around you and you just want to follow the path and don’t think too much. Sometimes it can be easier to stay in the career you choose when you were younger, even if you feel it is not right for you anymore.

Changing is hard, the process is long and we love, as a human being, staying in our comfort zone. Believe me, following your dreams, getting out of your comfort zone, living new experiences, meeting new people is worth it.

It is worth it and it is teamwork because you will need help to change your life. The help of a friend, of a coach, of a family member, your significant other, that will be with you every day, every week to check your progress and keep you motivated.

If you are thinking of changing your life and have no idea where to start, I will help you to set-up a plan with concrete, short and long-term goals and I will be there to support or push you, depending on what you need. You can read the testimonial of Laurène to know more about the benefits of my coaching and contact me for more info.


Progress is impossible without change and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw

Read my last article “The Power of Choice” and follow my website Rainbow Life Coaching and my Facebook & Instagram page,  to be updated with the next one “How to make the right choice for you”.


Next week, I will talk about how to make a choice that is right for you (and only you!).

Marie Rousselle

Rainbow Life Coaching


The Power of Choice

Today and in the following weeks, I will share with you some insights about my vision of coaching around choices.

Our daily life is made up of choices, from the pair of socks you will wear to the dinner you will cook or order back home. 

We are making choices every day at every single step.

A choice is neither good nor bad; you make a choice with all the information you have and during a specific moment of your life. And sometimes after a few events, you say that it was a bad choice. But often you made the best choice at this exact moment of your life, and it is important to be sure of this choice when you make it.

But first, what is a choice?



What is a choice?

The definition of a choice in the Oxford dictionary is “an act of choosing between two or more possibilities”; “The right or ability to choose”; “A range of possibilities from which one or more may be chosen.”

Some synonyms are “option, alternative, possibility, a possible course of action”.

It means that choosing is a right, an ability that you, and only you, have in your life. No one can choose for you, because it will not be your choice anymore. When you make a choice it means that you have different possibilities, at least two, and you have to choose one of them in order to move on.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” – John C. Maxwell

In your everyday life, what kind of choices do you have to make?


Examples of daily choices

Choices have a big impact on your life.

“Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.” —Keri Russell

You can choose to snooze one more time and stay in bed and will have to rush to be ready to get to work or school, miss your train at 8.35am and your meeting scheduled at 9.00am. You can also be tired and decide to wake up later because you need this time for you and it is about self-care. Often when you make this choice, you don’t expect this domino effect that will make your day start badly.

The average working adult makes about 12 decisions before 9am and an adult makes about 70 decisions a day.

Some of these choices are so much part of our routine that we do not even stop to think about the choices we make. We make choices about the clothes we wear, the food we eat, the appointments we schedule, the people we meet, the time we turn up to work, which bus we catch, where we sit on the bus, what we do after work, and so on.

It’s part of our natural human behavior to make conscious and subconscious decisions on a daily basis.

Even not choosing to do something is a choice.

Choosing is sometimes a waste of time. Building a routine and habits can save you time and “brain energy” so you can focus on important decisions.

Some famous leaders have a morning routine, same clothes, same time to wake up, same breakfast. It gives them more space to think of essential things in their life and business.

For example, each day Steve Jobs would get up, make his bed, shower, and then look himself in the mirror. He’d lock eyes with himself and ask, “If today was the last day of my life, would I be happy with what I’m about to do today?”

If the answer was “no” too many days in a row, he knew something needed to change.

A bit too dramatic maybe, but it was effective for him.

Have you noticed that he was always wearing the same clothes?

Famous leaders always dress the same.

Steve Jobs wore a black mock turtleneck, blue jeans, and New Balance sneakers.

Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook’s chief executive, wears a grey T-shirt. Albert Einstein, the famous theoretical physicist wore a grey suit, no socks, and unkempt hair. Jean Nouvel (Yes, a famous French leader too!), the French architect wears all black in the fall, winter and spring, and all white in the summer. Karl Lagerfeld, head designer and creative director for the fashion house Chanel, wears a black suit, white shirt, tie, sunglasses, and accessories (like gloves or jewelry).

Zuckerberg himself has said in an interview “I really want to clear my life to make it so that I have to make as few decisions as possible about anything except how to best serve this community.”

Clearly, having a routine helps us to have a clearer mind when it is time to make tough or important decisions.

Having a clear mind is essential to make a choice, but that alone will not give you the answer.

Again, some of the choices you make in your life will be life-changing, and the choices we make can leave us with more meaningful learning experiences. This is the power of choice.

The Power of Choice

Tony Robbins, entrepreneur, bestselling author, philanthropist and the creator of the #1 personal and professional development program speaks brilliantly about the Power of Choice.

“The one thing we have in this world is we cannot control the events, but we can choose what to focus on, we can choose what things mean and we can choose what to do.”

Think about your life for a second.

How did you end up where you are now?

Think about 3 decisions you made in your life where, if you had made a different decision, you would have a completely different life today.

How is your life better today because of the decisions you made?

Take the time to reflect and think about these 3 decisions.

How do you feel? Do you remember when and how you took them? Do you regret them?

Maybe it was a little decision and it changed your whole life.

By choosing, you can have control of your life. Even a small choice can help you feel better. And if you want a new life, you need to make new choices.

“If you don’t like the way your career or your business is, change it!

If you don’t like your body, change it!

If you don’t like the relationship you’re in, change you first then maybe change it.” 

– Tony Robbins

And you, are you happy with the life that you have?

How do you think your choices impacted your life?

What is your process when you make a choice?

Have you ever felt your choice was not yours?


Next week, I will talk about how I made my choices, why I do not regret them.

I will share with you some tips and show you how I can help you to make a choice that is right for you (and only you!) thanks to my coaching.


Marie Rousselle

Rainbow Life Coaching